Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Bad boys v. Nice guys

I won't go into consequences of a man being one or another personality type, I will just try to define the difference between the two.
  1. BBs are very clear and simple when it comes to sex: If you are attractive and I feel like I want to have some, I will, if you want to. No manipulation. No reason to try and hide it. - NGs on the other hand try to hide their desires in all sorts of ways. They tend to complicate and hide "natural" things and by doing so confuse themselves and certain subject-
  2. BBs ability to be clear and simple ( primal?!) comes from their self confidence. And to be that self confident they are usually not very attached to the outcome or the current situation or person ( they are cool ), because they know from their past experience, they have many choices. - NGs are not aware of their choices and posibilites when it comes to women and therefore place too much of their energy and emotions into one current situation. In other words, they act in a way that seeks woman's approval (clingy) which of course isn't very self confident.
  3. BBs self confidence usually leads to them acting like a leader, a dominant figure - NGs can also try and act like a leader, but they usually lose it on crucial areas, because of the mentioned reasons. So they usually take alternative social roles. Or invest too much energy into leading, which causes them to look too agressive, annoying....
  4. Behaviour and looks are just logical consequences of the state of mind and if you look at the above pictures again, it really isn't hard to say which of these males is a BB and which one is a NG is it?

Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Thank You for smoking

Is a must see movie for every debater and highly recommended for everyone else. Why? It is packed with satirical, hillarious speeches, unpredictable twists and sceenes of the main caracter Nick who is trying to be a chief spokesman for the tobaco industry and a role model for his twelve year old son at the same time. There are also some very interesting insights into how and why to use arguments: Nick Naylor: "That's the beauty of argument, if you argue correctly, you're never wrong." After his divorced mom let him go to a buisiness trip to California with his father: Nick Naylor: "How did you convince her?" Joey Naylor: " It was an argument not a negotiation." Nick meeting with Jeff Megall, a film industry godfather, trying to buy more cigarettes into movies again: Nick Naylor: " Are you at all concerned about the health element?" Jeff Megall: " I am not a doctor, I am a facilitator. I bring creative people together. Whatever information there is, exists, it is out there. People should decide for themselves, they will, it is not my role to decide for them, that would be morally presumptious." After debating which flawour of ice cream is better in which Nick shows to Joey that it doesn't matter which flawor is the best, but to show that your opponent is wrong and you are therefore right: Joey Naylor: " But you still didn't convience me." Nick Naylor: " Its that I am not after you, I am after them!" After that a scene follows in which Joey smiles knowingly. A concept even a smart kid could understand, is usually missed by people who should get it. And people who do get it can "spin" them. There are so many more "nuggets of gold" in the movie so take 95min of your life to watch it, it will be well worth it!